Have you ever had difficulty in reaching intense pleasure? If yes, then you are not alone. Many females have reported that they find it difficult to have a sexual release with or without a partner. Emotional, physical, and psychological constraints affect the ability to find the release.
Both males and females can experience orgasmic disorder at any point in their life. But women are more so than men. In this blog, we are going to dive into the realms of orgasmic disorder and understand its causes, symptoms, diagnosis, and treatments. So, if you are having difficulty finding the peak pleasure, or know someone who is, this blog is for you.
Orgasmic Disorders In Men And Women: Comprehending Orgasmic Disorder
Sexual activity involves arousal, stimulation, release, and resolution between the partners. Meaning, that starting from the foreplay to finding the release together, all the activities are considered to be sexual and should be enjoyed by both parties. When one of the partners does not seem to enjoy some or any parts of this activity, it means they are suffering from orgasmic disorder.
Studies suggest that 43% of women and 31% of men suffer from orgasmic disorder. Although it is a fact that women take longer to orgasm than men. Let us understand the types of orgasmic dysfunction:
Female Orgasmic Disorder
When a female finds it difficult to orgasm or has a hard time getting aroused is categorized as female orgasmic disorder. This is again divided into:
This term refers to never having an orgasm either by oneself or with a partner. Women with no interest or knowledge suffer from this and cannot reach their ecstasy even while masturbating.
Here, women have had orgasms previously, but due to certain events in life, they are not able to reach an orgasm. This can be because of a traumatic event like rape, or mental abuse where either they have been a victim or have witnessed it.
This is the most common orgasmic disorder where a woman can experience ecstasy only during a part of sexual activity. Like when they are masturbating or having oral sex.
Here, the factors indicate that a woman is fully capable of enjoying all the activities but cannot seem to reach the orgasm. Even when the stimulation and arousal are sufficient.
Male Orgasmic Disorder
Men suffering from orgasmic disorders are rare and occur mostly after they age. This is further divided into two parts where men seem to have difficulty orgasm.
The disorder seems pretty obvious with the name. Males who find it difficult to get aroused or get their penis hard enough for sexual intercourse are said to be suffering from erectile dysfunction.
Premature ejaculation happens to most of the virgin males out there. It’s a notion, where men tend to orgasm before they have even got to perform the intercourse part. There is nothing wrong with that, but if you experience it frequently, then you should visit an expert.
Causes Of Orgasmic Disorder
The main reason for orgasmic disorder is divided into two segments which are:
- High cholesterol
- Multiple sclerosis
- Medications like antidepressants or antihistamines
- Recent surgery in the intimate parts
- Heart stroke
- High blood pressure
- High consumption of alcohol
- History of sexual or mental abuse
- Suffering from stress, anxiety, or depression
- Recent encounters with traumatic events
- Feeling shy while having sex
- Conscious about body figures
- Performance pressure
- Fear of intimacy
- Lack of sexual education
- Cultural and religious beliefs
- Relationship issues with the partner
- Lack of trust
Symptoms Of Orgasmic Disorder
Apart from reaching the orgasm, there are other indicators that one might be suffering from an orgasmic disorder.
- Unable to get aroused
- Delay in finding the ecstasy
- The intensity of orgasm is very low or not as it used to be
- Difficulty in maintaining an erection
- Misunderstanding between couples
- Lack of communication between the partners
Deciphering Orgasmic Disorder
To find out if you are suffering from a disorder or having a bad episode in your relationship, you can get a full diagnosis from your doctor. The doctor may ask you questions related to your relationship issues and perform a physical examination to understand your symptoms. You may be referred to a gynecologist or sex therapist according to your diagnosis.
Treatment Of Orgasmic Disorder
After proper diagnosis, your gynecologist or sex therapist can offer you insights about the disorder you are having and recommend several approaches. These approaches are meant to identify the underlying health conditions and reverse the symptoms of orgasmic disorder.
✔ Estrogen Hormone Therapy
This hormone therapy requires women to take either oral medications or applying a gel to their vagina. The purpose of this therapy is to induce sexual desire in women and enjoy intercourse. The pain that may come with intercourse will be decreased and you will be able to reach an orgasm. This also comes with strengthening your pelvic muscles. Perform kegel exercises and engage in masturbation.
✔ Couples Counseling
Talking through your issues will help you know your partner better and understand their requirements. Often putting your partner’s needs first can help them reach the orgasm and build trust in your relationship. Communicate more often with your partners and help them see their bodies through your eyes to insinuate pleasure. Indulge in spending more time together learning new things or doing a routine together.
Sexual intercourse is something that builds intimacy in partners and their foundation for trust. As the relationship goes, both the partners must be enjoying the act of love and can reach the orgasm. If these things are not addressed it can create misunderstanding, and insecurity, ultimately ruining your relationship.
Building healthy communication is the correct way to deal with any relationship problems, and talking about your sexual desires does not come with shame. Try to spark things up with romantic gestures and increase the chances of reaching an orgasm. Consent matters in all of the activities, make sure that your partner is up for whatever you have in mind and talk through it.
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